This weekend my husband Jack was wearing Lilly in the baby carrier while we were shopping. As we left the shop the bag-checker-lady looked at us excitedly and said’How nice, is it dad’s day today!?’
I know she was being friendly and making small talk. It was all very lovely. But I couldn’t help thinking that she’d never have looked at me carrying our daughter and asked if it was ‘mum’s day’ today.
Why don’t I get acknowledged for taking care of my child in the same way that my husband does? Or more to the point, why is a father carrying his child so exceptional?
Parenting is a team effort. A dad carrying his baby should be no more of a big deal than a mum carrying her baby.
People are quick to tell me how ‘lucky’ I am that my husband will take care of our daughter while I work part time. First, it isn’t luck. I chose to marry someone who has the same life views as me. Both my husband and I enjoy our careers and want to work. We also both want to be actively involved in raising our daughter. Second, why shouldn’t it be this way? Parenting is not just a mother’s job. Dads are parents too and are just as capable as mums are. It’s about time society started seeing them this way.