A skill I pride myself on is my ability to say no. As a working mum, I know that time is at a premium and I have no hesitation in saying no to things that don’t fit my priorities. I’ve become so good at saying no that I often forget to say yes. Or perhaps more accurately, I don’t even consider saying yes.
This morning almost became another ‘no’ day. I’d planned our monthly Career Mums Club meet up for this morning and as much as I’ve enjoyed every one so far, everything was telling me to cancel. I was at the tail end of a virus that saw me call in sick to work all week, Lilly was grizzly and the weather was crappy. I knew that not many people could make it and wondered if it was worth the 30 minute drive. I wanted to say no. I wanted to tuck up in bed and hibernate at home, but three lovely mummas had said they were coming and I didn’t want to let them down. It wasn’t long ago that I was looking online for a lifeline in the form of likeminded friends and I knew that today could be that for someone else. So I said yes. I went and it was great.
If mum brain is a thing though, I definitely had that today. I missed the turn to pick up my friend Terri. I drove down the freeway for 10 minutes before realising that I had absolutely no idea where I was going. We managed to set ourselves up at the wrong park, picnic food out and everything, announce our arrival on Facebook (where is everyone else!?), before realising that Google Maps had taken us to the wrong place. If I didn’t laugh I would have cried.
Was it worth it? Absolutely.
I discovered two new, beautiful parks. Lilly surprised me by not being the clingy or grizzly baby that I thought she’d be, but instead being Miss Independent toddler – happily taking herself off to explore the slides, playing with her toy animals and drawing. I met some lovely people and had great judgement-free conversations about all things working-mum life, motherhood and many things in between. And most importantly, I learnt that perhaps no isn’t always the right answer, even if the question doesn’t tick all my boxes.