Browsing Tag: Parenting

Managing expectations as a working parent

When I first started taking my daughter to work my boss gave me some great advice: don’t have too many expectations. In one sense this goes against everything I believe in – what’s a life without goals! But at the same time, I get it. Life with a newborn can be chaotic and unpredictable. What he was really saying was ‘don’t worry if things don’t go…

“Dad’s day”

This weekend my husband Jack was wearing Lilly in the baby carrier while we were shopping. As we left the shop the bag-checker-lady looked at us excitedly and said’How nice, is it dad’s day today!?’ I know she was being friendly and making small talk. It was all very lovely. But I couldn’t help thinking that she’d never have looked at me carrying our…

Should we post photos of our children online? 

When I first heard that a friend had asked her family and friends not to post photos of her newborn daughter on Facebook I didn’t get it. What’s the big deal? Facebook is private; it’s not like the whole world can see? But as my daughter grows I have been thinking about this more and more and I’m starting to think I might feel the same way…

A day in my life: Taking my baby to work

Many people have asked me about the practicalities of taking my baby to work with me. How does it work? Do I actually get work done? What does my baby do all day? When Lilly was a newborn my days looked much like they did pre-baby, except that I’d breastfeed and change a nappy now and then. My happy newborn would wake to feed and then go back to sleep for a…

Working mum stigma 

I love my daughter and my job and there’s no reason why I can’t have both. But there is a certain stigma that comes with being a working mum. There are three things in particular that bother me…

The loneliness of motherhood

I wrote here about how being a mum has made me the happiest I have ever been in my life.  It’s true, on the whole I am so happy.  But something in me isn’t quite right. I’m sure hormones are partly to blame; but honestly, I think I’m lonely.  It sounds odd – how can I be lonely? I have my baby girl, my husband, family, close…

A letter to the stranger I met on the train

Dear Stranger, It was so lovely to chat with you today. Thank you for sharing a little snippet of your life. I enjoyed talking about how you were running late as you’d forgotten to set your alarm, having turned it off for the public holiday. How you rushed to get your children ready. How your son pooped without his nappy on, resulting in an emergency bath when you were already late (typical!). About…

Mother Zen

While I was pregnant my husband Jack bought me Jacinta Tynan’s book Mother Zen. I don’t believe in parenting ‘how-to’ books, but Mother Zen became by bible.  Jacinta quickly became my working-mum role model, a post that I was lacking and one I was so desperate to fill. I don’t have many friends with children, let alone friends with children and careers. Jacinta showed me that it was possible…