Who do you think you are?

I had trouble writing the About me page on this blog. Sure, my page tells you some things about me – I am married, have a daughter, work as a lawyer, blah blah , but it doesn’t actually tell you much about who I am as a person. Although no one knows me better than myself, I don’t like to label myself and I find it tricky to actually explain who I am.

I recently came across The Notorious Mum blog. As I do when I find a new blog I like, I scrolled back through Lisa’s recent posts and came across Who do you think you are?  In the post, Lisa challenges the idea of women being portrayed as simply wives and mothers.

I think ‘simply’ might be understating it a bit. Being a wife and mother is a huge part of my identity and both are roles that I attach a lot of value to. But I understand her point: there is more to me than being a wife and a mum. Much more.

Anyway, back to Lisa’s post. Lisa sets a challenge:

Okay, so here’s a challenge of my own: the describe-yourself challenge. I might have to come with a slightly snappier title than that; I’m working on it. The describe-yourself challenge goes a little something like this: describe yourself! (I haven’t really thought this through.) Yeah, describe yourself, BUT WITHOUT MENTIONING YOUR LIFE PARTNER OR YOUR CHILDREN. Ha! There you go.

Yes, all her posts are this fun and witty. You should check her out, if you haven’t already.

Lisa, I accept your challenge:

“Hi, my name is Lucy.

I enjoy running, although I struggle to fit that in these days and settle for long walks instead. I also enjoy baking, preferably if someone else wants to do the washing-up when I’m finished.

I enjoy reading self-improvement books. Stephen Covey’s The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People is currently on my coffee table. I loved M. Scott Peck’s The Road Less Travelled.

I have tried to enjoy yoga and kale, but I don’t. Walking and chocolate are much more me.

I don’t like ‘stuff.’ Most of the things I own have a practical or sentimental purpose. I regularly have a big ‘spring clean’ of my house and throw things out. Soon there will be nothing left!

I do not like the heat, so Perth summers and I do not get on well. I also do not like nosey, opinionated people. Sure, everyone is entitled to an opinion, but that doesn’t mean every opinion needs to be shared.

I am a lawyer practising in property and commercial law, Wills and estate administration. My favourite part of my job is not the law part, but developing new and innovative methods of delivering legal services and training and mentoring junior lawyers.”

If you accept Lisa’s challenge, write or post a link to your response in the comments below.


 

69 COMMENTS

  1. Mummy Times Two | 29th Nov 16

    I love this post so much (especially the part about washing up). We so often define ourselves by other people, and it’s so hard to think about the ‘you’ behind them. I think about pages are so hard to write.

    • Lucy's Locket | 29th Nov 16

      haha, who enjoys washing up!? Once I got going it wasn’t too hard but I definitely have a tendency to define myself by my relationships to others. I don’t think that it’s necessarily a bad thing, but it is important to remember that we are our own person!

  2. kimberly | 29th Nov 16

    Ooh this is really enjoyable – I will definitely have a go and link back ???? thanks for the inspiration! We are so many things and must never lose sight of who we are x

    • Lucy's Locket | 29th Nov 16

      No probs. We can both thank The Notorious Mum blog for the inspiration 🙂 Look forward to reading your post

  3. Lisa | The Notorious MUM | 29th Nov 16

    Lucy! Hello! I can’t overstate how much I love this post. You took my challenge and ran with it. And, as an aside, you are me. That’s very cool. I struggle with the Perth heat too. And I love baking. Go us! Can’t wait to read more x

    • Lucy's Locket | 29th Nov 16

      Hi Lisa! Thanks for the inspiration. It was good to do this. I reminded myself that I am my own person too! Thank you xx

  4. mackenzieglanville | 30th Nov 16

    oh I love this idea! That is funny isn’t it, I mean we do include our children and partners in ur description how could we not, being a mum is a huge part of my happiness and yet I am so many more things. Really enjoyed this post!

    • Lucy's Locket | 30th Nov 16

      Thank you. I thought you might like this one! I was going to link it to #mg next week 🙂

      • mackenzieglanville | 9th Dec 16

        Thank you so much for linking this up!!!!

  5. Dave - Dad's Turn | 1st Dec 16

    Very true about always being pinned as ‘mother/wife’ even big female achievers. People are so much more #ablogginggoodtime

    • Lucy's Locket | 1st Dec 16

      Do you think the same is true for dads? I hadn’t actually thought about that.

  6. Digital Motherhood | 2nd Dec 16

    I like this post, it’s hard to talk about yourself without mentioning your family isn’t it! Important to remember that you are a person in your own right though! 🙂 #SharingTheBlogLove

    • Lucy's Locket | 2nd Dec 16

      Thank you. Even writing this I had to stop myself from talking about them!!

  7. The Mumatron | 2nd Dec 16

    I still struggle with this, who am I? I’m Helen, I like plays on the radio, Italian food and sleeping outdoors. I don’t like rude people, hearing people eat or milk. Hmm, may be I do know myself a bit better than I thought. Great post to get us thinking about things non-mum! #stayclassymama

    • Lucy's Locket | 2nd Dec 16

      Nice to meet you, Helen ????
      I don’t like hearing people eat either. Gross.

  8. Lydia C. Lee | 2nd Dec 16

    My facebook rarely talks about my partner or kids (cos we all have kids we think are great so who cares). It’s usually what I’m thinking about, doing or want to do. Last post was about whether we see time as an arrow or a wheel….I’ve been told I’m quite odd and yet so much more interesting than the ‘look at my kids, give me a like’ posts. So I don’t think I’d have trouble not mentioning them in my bio, but then the blurb that followed my be a little too obtuse for many….#Stayclassymama

  9. Mrs Mummy Harris | 2nd Dec 16

    Could I get away with saying I’m a cat lover and then go on about them? Haha oh gosh I think I’d struggle to actually write about me.
    My life is too mummed out right now that I don’t often get to think what I want for lunch (not got any spread so for two weeks it’s been salad cream or mayo sandwiches !!)
    It’s nice to see the people for them rather then “hi I’m a mum/wife/drunk/layabout” hahahaha #stayclassymama

    • Lucy's Locket | 2nd Dec 16

      Haha go for it, fine by me! It is tricky when you spend the majority of time doing mum things.

  10. Chilli Regina | 2nd Dec 16

    I really like this post. For me it was always hard to answer a simple question – who am I? It seems that now, after I’ve started bloging, I found myself, I know who I am, and I can right down all the things I like about me. Thank you for sharing! x #ablogginggoodtime

    • Lucy's Locket | 2nd Dec 16

      Thank you. I think putting thoughts and feelings into words really helps us to learn more about ourselves. I’m finding blogging helps with that too.

  11. Katy - Hot Pink Wellingtons | 2nd Dec 16

    I find it so difficult to write about myself! And I definitely fall into the trap of talking about my family (which I do think is fine – they’re a huge part of my life, but it’s important to not define ourselves by them). It’s lovely to get to know you a bit better – I’m the opposite to you in lots of ways though, I love stuff, my home is filled with clutter and bits and bobs, and I also love the heat! Thanks for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

    • Lucy's Locket | 3rd Dec 16

      I agree with that too ????????
      Nice to get to know you too! Oh I can’t deal with the heat, it’s summer here now and I’m not looking forward to it!!

  12. Mummy Mindful | 4th Dec 16

    I always love finding out a little more about my fave bloggers – but I hope that doesn’t put me into the ‘nosey’ category 😉 We have Covey’s book kicking around at the moment and as you know I’m not a big fan of ‘stuff’ either – I LOVE a spring clean 🙂 xx #ablogginggoodtime

    • Lucy's Locket | 4th Dec 16

      Hahaha no you’re not in the nosey category! I think we have quite a lot in common Hayley ???? xx

  13. Sarah Aslett @ Admissions Of A Working Mother | 4th Dec 16

    Great post and a good idea! About Me pages are tricky I still don’t have a very good one! Enjoyed reading more about you tho #stayclassymama

  14. Annette | 5th Dec 16

    Fab challenge, and I definitely feel that your response says so much more about who you actually are. I think we can sometimes box ourselves in a bit by setting our own definers. Thanks so much for sharing with the #dreamteam.

    • Lucy's Locket | 5th Dec 16

      Thanks. It does, and it wasn’t even that hard once I got going!

  15. rawsonjl | 5th Dec 16

    This is great! I have to write up a bio for myself and don’t know where to start!

    • Lucy's Locket | 5th Dec 16

      They’re hard aren’t they! I always struggle too.

  16. diynige | 5th Dec 16

    Love these posts learn more about the person behind the blog my wife loves baking and guess what I do the washing up lol #globalblogging

    • Lucy's Locket | 5th Dec 16

      Lol well done! My husband usually does my washing up too ???? it’s only fair that you contribute if you’re going to eat the tasty baked goods too!

  17. tinmccarthy | 5th Dec 16

    I think that starting this blogging journey has helped me identify myself more. Finally I have something strictly for me! Thanks for linking up to #globalblogging link party

    • Lucy's Locket | 6th Dec 16

      It’s nice to have a hobby just for you, isn’t it.

  18. alicesoule | 6th Dec 16

    If I never had to wash up again, I’d be a happy lady! Our dishwasher is broken at the moment and it’s horrendous. Can’t afford to get a replacement yet so the interim replacement is ME! Arghhh Fab answer and it’s lovely to read a non-UK blog as I don’t seem to have many in my collection repertoire. A xx #mg

    • alicesoule | 6th Dec 16

      PS My website has change! http://www.livingwithajude.co.uk Not my old WordPress one…must update that x

    • Lucy's Locket | 6th Dec 16

      I can usually handle washing or drying but its when you have to do the whole lot! Especially after baking. I get tired, haha.
      Thank you. Most of the ones I follow are in the UK too. Mac is also in Aus 🙂

  19. ourrachblogs | 6th Dec 16

    I really like this. The About Me page is so frigging difficult. I hate stuff too, I’m always chucking things out. I have a rule, if it’s not been worn or used for a year then it’s going! #globalblogging

    • Lucy's Locket | 6th Dec 16

      Good rule! Since I’ve started getting rid of things I’m also so much more careful with what I buy too and prefer to do without if I think something will not be used often.
      The about me page is hard!

  20. Obsessivemom | 6th Dec 16

    This is a fabulous idea. I so need to get down to doing my about me page. Good to know more about you. I wish I liked ‘stuff’ less! I have so much piled up.

    • Lucy's Locket | 8th Dec 16

      They’re so hard aren’t they! You’d think they’d be easy given that we know ourselves best, but no!

  21. Mummy Bee | 6th Dec 16

    You have really made me think and ask myself who do I think I am as for the past 5 months I have only thought of myself as a mum I felt like I had lost my individual identity but I am more than a mum. #GlobalBlogging

    • Lucy's Locket | 6th Dec 16

      You sure are! Being a mum is just one part of your identity. Maybe the most important part, but a part nonetheless. Give Lisa’s challenge a go 🙂 xx

  22. Helen @Talking_mums | 6th Dec 16

    Ha, I’ve been trying to do an ‘about me’ section on my site too. Hard work! I think I will take this challenge and write a post that attempts to define ‘me’ without the big ‘mother’ and ‘girlfriend’ titles in there!
    #GlobalBlogging

    • Lucy's Locket | 7th Dec 16

      Yay! Tag me I’d love to read. I’m sure The Notorious Mum would like to read too ???? x

  23. themotherhub | 7th Dec 16

    this is a great idea ! will have a ponder and get back to it. i think it would be interesting to not mention your occupation either…#ablogginggoodtime

    • Lucy's Locket | 8th Dec 16

      I almost didn’t and then put a para in at the end!

  24. Laura (@dearbearandbean) | 7th Dec 16

    I’m like you and can’t write about myself or even really ever think about myself. It’s always my family that I find more comfortable talking about. I hope you make it through the summer ok. I would happily swap places. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove x

  25. thefrenchiemummy | 8th Dec 16

    A very nice introduction to you! I am not very keen on washing up either . Well I don’t bake much either! So right, it’s difficult to define ourselves as anything else than being mummies… #SharingtheBlogLove

    • Lucy's Locket | 8th Dec 16

      Neither do I these days, but I do try.
      I don’t think it’s a bad thing: being mum is so important. But we should remember that we are other things too ❤️
      Thanks for stopping by x

  26. Winnettes | 8th Dec 16

    This is such a good idea. I hate defining myslef by my children and husband as I am so much more. Yet I find myself constantly doing it. It is lovely to read more about the woman, nit just the mother.
    #SharingtheBlogLove

    • Lucy's Locket | 8th Dec 16

      I do it all the time too. My daughter, husband and my job! They’re all huge parts of me, but they shouldn’t be everything!

  27. Michelle G | 8th Dec 16

    What a fab way to describe yourself. I have been thinking about labels recently as I do use them as shorthand to describe me but there is so much more beneath the surface. I think there is a place for labels but it’s important to know the person behind the names. Nice to know more about you too 🙂 #sharingthebloglove

    • Lucy's Locket | 8th Dec 16

      Thanks Michelle. Yes, they’re helpful but we should be mindful not to focus too much on the stereotype. I’ve written a post about this too (linked in this one).

  28. emmerson329 | 8th Dec 16

    I love this! I am exactly the same when I have to write about myself. I tend to describe myself as a Mum of five, wife of one, and reveal very little about who I actually am. I need to write something similar, I’m not even sure who I am these days other than a secret chocolate eater! #sharingthebloglove

    • Lucy's Locket | 10th Dec 16

      Secret chocolate eater is a great start! ????????

  29. Lucy At Home | 9th Dec 16

    What a great idea! Yes I think I’d really struggle with this. I also love baking (especially when someone else does the washing up!) but running? Not so much! Haha. Lovely to find out a little bit more about you, Lucy #SharingTheBlogLove

    • Lucy's Locket | 10th Dec 16

      Thanks Lucy. I surprised myself with the running cos I’ve never been a sports/exercise kind of girl! I find it therapeutic, love it!

  30. mummymiller | 9th Dec 16

    I understand exactly where you are coming from, I think we all define ourselves by our roles, mother, wife, or your job role. I struggled with my about me as I just hate talking about myself! #sharingthebloglove

  31. susielhawes | 9th Dec 16

    I became a SAHM earlier this year and sometimes feel I’ve lost my identity a bit, so this is really interesting. I will give it a go.. and come back and comment when I have. xx #SharingtheBlogLove

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  33. tootingmama | 13th Dec 16

    Great post, I’ve really struggled with my about me page, I so need to redo mine! I’m a stay at home mum it’s a big part of my life, but all I seem to do is walk walk walk – to the shops, the school run and walking the dog! Am going to give this a go tho’ – thank you! Am booking marking Lisa’s post before I go! #SharingtheBlogLove

    • Lucy's Locket | 13th Dec 16

      Yes do read Lisa’s post! Please tag me in yours, I’d love to read it.

  34. One Messy Mama | 14th Dec 16

    To be honest I actually haven’t thought of myself in any other way than as a mom in a long time. It’s a good reminder to sometimes separate yourself from those 2 labels (mom and wife) and to jot down more about me! Something I should do soon! xx #globalblogging

  35. Hayley @ Mission: Mindfulness | 15th Mar 17

    Oooooo I love this challenge and will be accepting it too at some point! I love that you have found other aspects of your job that you enjoy apart from the law. I’m not a feat lover of heat either – must be our fair complexions! Xx

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